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The Dangers of Dogma

What is the motive for dogma –  religious, social, fiscal?

Is it the perceived mental security, or the fear of the unknown?

Vulnerability isn’t easy. It’s scary. It’s uncertain – but it’s worth it!

Rules and regulations, while a necessary evil, are just guidelines.  They help to curtail impetuous and destructive human tendencies, but they aren’t intended to be a used as weapon against all those whose opinions may differ from yours.

For instance, I recently watched a movie with a girl who was much more “straight laced” than myself. This movie was called “Wild”, starring one of my  celebrity crushes, Reece Witherspoon.  It is, in my opinion, a story of redemption, a raw and real account of the hardships life can bring! After reading the book I couldn’t wait to see the movie.

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I wasn’t disappointed, it was emotional, engaging and heart wrenching.

Of course we all handle pain and disappointment in different ways, but is there really a “right way”?

Well, according to my date, there most assuredly is.


And it most certainly isn’t to become a “whore” – a way fairing, drug using, sex crazed woman…who had seemingly  lost her way.

Obviously if she had known Jesus, a more ladylike path would have chosen, right? I mean, c’mon!

But was Cheryl (Reece) a whore?

I would say she was a young lady whose father was an abusive, bi-polar, alcoholic who ruled through fear and manipulation. Consequently, her mother – a consummate example of love and forgiveness – became Cheryl’s rock and centerpiece.

When her Mom died at 45, the world came crashing down.

How should a young daughter respond?

She could have gone to church…sat in a comfortable pew, soaking in grief while the choir swayed predictably and sang: “Love lifted me”.

But she didn’t. She ran…wracked by guilt, anger – feeling cheated and alone.

She lost herself in sex, drugs and any other form of distraction that would numb the pain even for a moment.

So she is a whore, right? A druggie, one of “those people”!


wild imageHere is the rest of the story:

She found her way back. In an act of passion, courage and unusual willpower, she made the “journey” back to herself. A journey of 1100 miles or so.

So, is there really only ONE WAY back?

Isn’t is possible that what works for one, may not work for all?

Confronting our beliefs is one of the most unsettling pursuits. To acknowledge that everything we believe and hold as truth is subject to interpretation will frighten even the most stalwart soul. But I would argue that this is preferable to cowering behind rigid ideals, and brandishing them as a club.

I am finding that very few things in life are linear. We are emotional creatures, and emotions are messy.

But nevertheless, I champion the pursuit of happiness, by whatever means necessary to achieve authenticity. This kind of happiness, I believe, is born from struggle and failure, and the knowing that you faced the pain,  felt it, lived it, cursed it. Ultimately though, you conquered it.

This is genuine, tangible. Long lasting and uniquely yours.

Anything less is cowardly and narrow minded, leading to judgment and criticism without understanding.

This isn’t the life I choose.

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